Christmas and New Year’s is a fabulous time of year to foster music appreciation. Whether it’s a full-blown production of Handel’s Messiah, children’s school choirs, or piano and organ recitals, the joy of the season will be communicated through music. This is the time to look ahead to concerts being offered throughout the next year, and make some tentative reservations before tickets sell out.

But if your family is anything like mine, a little prep work will go a long way toward the parents, at least, enjoying the concert. Give the kids some pre-concert tips and you’ll be good to go. This is what I’ve told mine, and because they’re not yet adults, we can only hope that they have not been scarred for life:.

1. Observe the pianist’s fingers, arms, and posture. Try to duplicate the same when doing your own practice sessions. Please refrain from practicing any imaginary piano during the concert itself. (That includes air guitars, as well.)

2. Watch how all of the performers keep to the beat of the music. The conductor’s baton may signal 4/4 time, for instance. The conductor is a skilled musician and truly does not need your help keeping time, particularly in tapping your foot next to the person’s ear sitting in the tiered, theater seat in front of us.

3. During a concert, distractions are frowned upon. Slinking down in the pew, getting up to go to the bathroom, asking questions or talking during a selection, noisily umwrapping a candy, or feeling the need to yawn loudly should be squelched. If you cannot squelch yourself, I am here to help.

4. Other patrons have either paid, or simply arrived and scheduled their time to watch and hear the performance promised them. No matter how entertaining or cute you may perceive yourself to be, you will not turn around in your seat, make silly faces, nor go into any other type of dramatic displays. Should this occur, there will be great drama when we return home:.

5. We will respectfully dress for the occasion: no pajama look-alikes, flip-flops, or uncombed hair. If the orchestra is dressed in formal-wear, or the chorus’ black-and-white outfits match one another, we can make some effort, as well. And no matter how hard you try, you will not convince me that you should go to the concert dressed as a runaway ballet dancer from The Nutcracker Suite. No tutus, and no heavy stage makeup, even if every person you see on stage is sporting such.

6. Our family will plan to arrive early, in order to be on time. Parking the car, using the restrooms, and finding our seats can all take time. I may bring notebooks and pens for you to use pre-concert and you can sketch anything new and unique around you, except the people seated nearby. Write your impressions of the instruments tuning to the first violinist, or the almost-palpable feelings of excitement in the concert hall. During the concert, the notebooks go away, along with the clicky pens or sharp pencils that might drop and roll down, down, down the aisle.

It’s been our experience that well-rested, and well-fed children (not to mention adults) do best at concerts. Schedule one sometime this season: and enjoy!

———–Copyright 2011 — Alexandra Bartologimignano

(Alexandra jets here and there with her two boys, two girls, one husband, and two dogs, while chronicling their larger-than-life adventures at www.destinationsdreamsanddogs.com.)

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